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Monthly Archives: February 2008

A Valentine’s Message

February 2008


The great chronicler of gay sex Boyd McDonald was fond of repeating the aphorism “How often have we gone out looking for sex but found only love.” As he did so often, Boyd managed to lampoon our culture’s inverted sexual values with words that seem, at first, to be twisted in order to amuse. But Boyd wasn’t just being clever or ironic — his seemingly mangled proverb, taken at face-value, exposes how we are ill-served by prevalent attitudes about sex and love.


“Love,” as used in Boyd’s maxim, is a treacly sentiment. This love is… Continue reading